Kids Aren’t Lizards Intro

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This past weekend I turned 20 years old. Most birthdays do not really freak me out, but this birthday took me by surprise. I am no longer a teen and I am adventuring into a decade of life that will bring many new changes.

My birthday caused me to reminisce about my childhood and think about all the good memories I have of dolls, fairy tales and toys that are n0t electronics. I remember losing teeth and waiting excitedly for the tooth fairy. I remember picking wildflowers in my backyard and pretending I was a princess. I remember playing with dolls that Santa Claus brought me and my mom fixing my hair in a bun for ballet class. I remember many things about my childhood, but most of all, I remember the innocence. I remember the carefree innocence of my friends when we were young and how happy we were because life was simple. The only relationships we had were “in person” and supervised by our caregivers. We had no idea what social media was.

One of the things that breaks my heart most about our culture is so many children/kids will not experience that same innocence which my friends and I enjoyed due to social media, celebrities, certain books, movies, music, etc.

That is one of the reasons I felt it was so important to write this blog series. “Kids Aren’t Lizards” is about relaying to parents what I see every day. I see what kids post on social media. I see how dating relationships affect an 8th grader’s life. I am no longer a child, but I still live in the same world that they do. I am not here to tell parents how to parent; I am here to offer help and provide all the info I have. I am here to plead with parents and others to protect the innocent and provide that same child-friendly safe zone which I feel we have lost for the next generation of kids and young ones.

My dad always says, “Kid’s aren’t lizards, they don’t hatch and raise themselves.” which is the premise for this blog series. A humorous example is my dear, precious 9 year old brother who without parenting would be a sickly, toothless, stinky hobo if my mom did not require a good diet and hygiene from him:) I think too many parents are detached from their kids lives either voluntarily, or due to stress and responsibilities, or by accident. Some parents see their kids making poor choices but look the other way chalking it up to “kids will be kids” or give into frustration and other parents simply do not see at all. Again, I am not here to tell you how to do your job but I did grow up in your kid’s generation and I do understand their struggles as well as I understand yours.

I’m the middle man (woman). I am not a child but I am still learning to be an adult and growing in my maturity. I know what kids in this generation are struggling with because that was me 3 years ago. However, I have now entered adulthood and am starting to see those same teenage choices and decisions come full circle. I am starting to see both sides of the coin.

With all my talk about innocence, please do not misunderstand me. I am not advocating that children just shouldn’t grow up or that we shelter them. But what I am saying is that too many 11 year olds have social media accounts. Too many 7th graders have boy/girlfriends when in reality no 7th grader (in my opinion) should be dating period. Too many kids whether they be 3rd grade or 10th grade are wasting their innocence and childhood because their parents are detached and these kids are forced to raise themselves. In the absence of an adult, a child then begins making decisions that no child or teen has the emotional or mental maturity to make.

The bottom line is that the loss of innocence due to in-active parenting worries me. I love your kids. I have a heart for kids and teens. I am honored to speak in schools, youth groups, etc. because I get to meet and spend time with these kids. I see their struggles and more times than not I see their parent’s absence in their lives that contribute to their struggles.

Every kid desires to be loved and every child wants to be made to feel special. I know every parent loves their kids and they understand how special their child is. However, sometimes life gets in the way and we lose track of being involved. I understand how difficult that can be which again is why I’m writing this blog series.

Each week in January I will be discussing 4 different topics- Kids & Social Media, Kids & Dating, Kids & Friends, and Kids & Extracurriculars. These are 4 subjects that I feel are extremely important and relevant but are simply not being addressed on a regular basis as I think it should be. Again, all I am here for is to offer help and relay the issues I see in my generation that many parents simply may not know to look for.

All I want is for kids to grow up on time and in a mature manner. Not grow up too fast in an immature way. I look forward to sharing what I have learned through my own experiences as a teen growing up in the digital age as well as some interesting facts regarding social media next week.

I hope you all have a Happy New Year!

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Merry Christmas!

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Merry Christmas everyone!

I hope you are all enjoying this special time with your loved ones. This is not going to be a lengthy blog because I too am spending time with my family this week. Soak up every moment you can because the Christmas season flies by all too quickly. If only the Holidays lasted a little longer.

In January, I will be starting a blog series called “Kids Aren’t Lizards”. Which may seem strange and random, but something my dad always says is “Kids aren’t lizards. They don’t hatch and raise themselves.” I will give more detail next Wednesday on what I will be talking about each week in this series. For now, I will just say that like my blogs in the past this series will be written for everyone but will be geared towards parents from a teen/young adult perspective.

I am extremely excited for Christmas and the New Year. Many exciting things are happening and for that I am grateful. I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas.

See you next week!

© Bailey Kennon and Dating W Purpose, 2015. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Bailey Kennon and Dating W Purpose with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

 

Where I’ve Been.

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Hey y’all!

I need to apologize because I have not been keeping up with my weekly blogs as I should have been. My life have changed a lot over the past few months and my path has been redirected a little.

I began my I’ll Wait ministy last year around this time and I am so happy to see how this ministry has grown. But most of all, I am excited to see how this ministry has grown me as a person. Weekly blogging has challenged me; traveling and speaking have pushed me out of my comfort zone. I’ll Wait has done wonders for me in my walk with the Lord and I can not wait to see how it continues to grow me in the years to come.

But the thing is, I’ll Wait is not just about me anymore. I will continue to give my honest opinion in my blogs and be open about what I am dealing with, but it goes deeper than what I think or how I feel.

Back in September, I won the Miss Coastal Alabama Pageant, a Miss Alabama preliminary pageant, and I will be competing for Miss Alabama in June 2016. My platform is Dating With Purpose which had its beginnings and is loosely based upon the purpose of I’ll Wait. Competing in the Miss Coastal Alabama Pageant opened my eyes to see that I’ll Wait was not reaching as big of an audience as I would like to. I created my platform Dating With Purpose because my goal and desire is to reach not just those within churches and youth groups, but also kids in public schools and people from all different walks of life. I wanted the topics I discuss in my platform presentation to be relatable to any person no matter the age, gender, or religion. I’ll Wait’s purpose is still the same; my platform Dating With Purpose is just taking it a few steps further.

What I would like to do through my platform is address a gap I see in sex education in our schools. We teach about and discuss STDs, unplanned pregnancies, condoms, etc. but those topics only address the physical aspect of relationships. Through my platform and a presentation I have prepared, I plan to speak to middle and high schoolers not just about the physical aspect of relationships, but also the emotional and mental toll social dating can have on a person. Our slogan is “Expect Respect” and a core focus of my presentation is respecting yourself, respecting others, and expecting respect from those around us because every person is worthy and special.

So many young people in our culture are caught up in this drama cycle. They begin to date… They break up… They date… They break up. I have dealt with this same drama cycle myself and it is a draining experience. Social media only makes it worse.

When we are being drained in this drama cycle, our goals and aspirations suffer. Our grades drop, our family life dwindles, and we lose sight of what is really important.

Now, what is really important for a 7th-12th grader? Many different things: grades, ACT score, college, sports, music, family, etc. However, I think one of our main issues as a society is that we do not take relationships as seriously as we should. Dating relationships affect us for the rest of our lives on all sides- physically, emotionally and mentally.

In my future blogs, my writing may be a bit more academic, because dating is not just a “Christian issue”; it is something everyone deals with. My blogs will always be in line with Biblical principles, but I also want to offer up common sense, logical rationale based upon unbiased research that supports what I am advocating.

Now, what am I advocating? Through my platform, I am asking that instead of participating in this “drama cycle”, we date with purpose. Instead of dating due to societal pressures or because you are lonely or bored, you date because you are looking for a long-lasting relationship. You date someone because you see them as a possible husband or wife. Dating with purpose is not the norm in our culture, but I believe through the research I have done that it is the only way a person can have a successful, long-lasting, healthy relationship.

I am excited to enter into this new chapter of my life through my pageant platform and the title that I have received. In addition to revamping I’ll Wait, I have also created separate social media accounts for my platform Dating With Purpose so please like/follow to keep up with the different events and functions that will take place over the next 6 months leading up to the Miss Alabama Pageant.

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© Bailey Kennon and Dating W Purpose, 2015. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Bailey Kennon and Dating W Purpose with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.